How it works

One step at a time.

The mother bond. The father wound. The pain of leaving home. The good girl who learned to please everyone but herself.

Some doors lead to childhood. Others to relationships, inherited patterns, or parts of ourselves we’ve learned to hide. You can explore one theme or follow the connections between several.

First, understand

A two-hour masterclass

Perspective through psychology, research, history, and the stories that help us recognize our own. Every masterclass comes with references and resources, with research kept apart from interpretation.

Available to purchase at any time. Included with every workshop session: each week of a program has its own masterclass, to watch at least a day before.

See the masterclasses

Then, experience

A guided weekly program

The exploration goes deeper through body awareness, shadow work, archetypes, reflection and experiential exercises. One 3½-hour group session per week. Join a whole program or a single session. A new program begins every three months.

Every session comes with its own masterclass to watch beforehand, a short online assessment, the slides, a printable workbook, the recording, the bibliography and key studies on the topic. You also receive a list of questions to ask your mother and father, if possible: a starting point for your own conversations, to discover more of your family’s story.

Experience a workshop
A wooden bench facing a calm lake

“We honor what was given, as it was, and we add the ingredient of our choice.”

Coming next

Further doors.

  • Shame and the One Who Was Left Out. The family member nobody speaks of, and the shame that came with the silence.
  • Couples: The Dynamics No One Taught You. What we bring from our first family into love.
  • Grief and Loss. For the losses that never had room to be mourned.

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Meet Nico

I started my career as a journalist in Romania, working in a local radio and TV station. Today I am a body-led life coach. I work with the body, the family system and the story you were handed, drawing on Ericksonian conversational hypnosis, systemic constellations, NLP and RTT. I don’t diagnose and I don’t treat.

More about me

Letters from Let Pain Go

Reflections on the patterns we inherit, the roles we learn to play, the places we leave behind, and the parts of ourselves we have yet to meet.

And first notice when a new workshop opens. No noise, and you can leave any time.